一位朋友在接受过专业心理咨询后被诊断为轻度抑郁,需要配合药物治疗。他曾向我吐槽说自己吃完药总是不由自主笑起来,说是因为药物使得大脑分泌多巴胺,哪怕压根儿没有值得高兴的事情,就是莫名其妙地嘴角上扬。现代人的生活节奏紧张,很多年轻人都不幸中招,患上心理疾病。像是比较常见的OCD(obsessive-compulsive disorder:强迫症),PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder:创伤后应激障碍)等等。生活中的细节也许就能反映出你的心理状态。那,成天发朋友圈有没有可能也是心理问题的反映呢?Reddit网站上有人提问说:What activity is socially accepted but actually borderline psychotic?有什么行为虽然是被社会接受的但实际上有点神经质?票数最高的回答把矛头指向了在社交媒体上的过度自我展现。The compulsion to put absolutely everything you do and experience on social media for people to "enjoy", when really you're hoping they'll envy you.你总有把生活细节和经历的所有事情都传到社交媒体上让好友“享受”的冲动(挺神经质的),你这么做其实是想让别人羡慕你。What's worse is when oversharers have kids, and they post photos of every single thing that their children do with little to no regard for their privacy.更糟糕的事情是,如果这个分享者有小孩儿的话,那人可能会把孩子做的一丁点小事都发上去,丝毫不顾及小孩儿的隐私。I’m not advocating not posting any photos of your children at all, but there are definitely some photos that verge on violating both the boundaries of good taste and your child’s privacy. Posting pictures of your kid’s birthday party or little league game? Fine! Posting pictures of them naked in the bathtub or sitting on their training potty? Uhh...我并不是说你完全不能晒娃,我的意思是有些照片的确是有点没品位,而且可能侵犯到了小孩儿的隐私。发一些你孩子生日派对的照片或者是少年棒球比赛的照片?完全没问题啊。但是发他们在浴缸里或者在便盆上的裸体照?还是算了吧......有过度使用的人,自然也有自愿戒掉社交媒体的人。有人就提问说:Those who stopped using social media such as Facebook and Instagram, what caused you to make this choice?那些戒掉脸书和Ins的人是因为什么才做的这个决定呢?I sat down one day, logged on and realized that 95% of the stuff on the front page was click bait articles or people getting tagged in memes.有天我坐着,登陆上去之后意识到,首页上95%的东西都是标题党文,还有网友在下面不断@好友的表情包。It's a bullsh* competition to prove how happy you are to people you don't even really care about.成天发东西向那些你压根儿不认识的人证明你过得多开心,简直有病。My friends contact me directly. People who aren't friends weed themselves out automatically.我的朋友们都是直接联系我的。那些不是我朋友的人就自动把自己从我的交际圈剔除了。My relationships have meaning and a natural ebb and flow. I learn interesting things through talking. They tell me stories and new events. I literally can't imagine how tedious, shallow and empty some people must feel without those real conversations in their lives.我的社交关系都是有意义的,也有它自然的起伏变化。与人交谈可以让我学到有意思的东西。朋友们也会给我讲故事和新闻。那些生活里没有真正的谈话交流的人,我不敢想他们的生活得多无聊肤浅又空虚啊。I'm a nerd, and f* social media of all kinds.我就一个肥宅,去他的社交媒体。最近两年拉面身边有部分朋友都不约而同地出现了“社交媒体倦怠”,他们不发或者是停用朋友圈,要不就设置一定时间段可见。 当被问起原因的时候,有人说“微信里面人太多,分组很累,所以干脆不发”; “每次发之前都要花很多精力去思考,纠结这一条是不是有品位,是不是有价值,合不合适让人看到”。也有人觉得“哪怕分了组,有时候被人识破了分组也挺尴尬的”; 而且“新加的好友经常忘了分组”。这么多烦恼,也难怪他们一个个都选择了隐身。戒除社交媒体后,他们觉得清净了很多,少了很多烦恼,自己的时间变多了,可以回归生活。是啊,你的微信好友数不断增长、微信社交逐渐泛化,势必引起交往疲劳;另外,朋友圈私人领域的公共化也导致“停用朋友圈”、“不发朋友圈”等等行为慢慢流行起来。